Developing Self Awareness

“The most powerful conversation you’ll ever
have is the one you have with yourself.” – David
Goggins
Self-talk is the silent or spoken conversation we have with
ourselves. It’s like an inner voice that guides us, criticizes us, or
even supports us. However, not everyone is aware of the nature
of their self-talk and how profoundly it can influence their actions,
emotions, and overall life satisfaction. Developing an awareness
of your self-talk is like tuning into a radio frequency that has
always been playing in the background – you might be surprised
at what you hear.
“Self-talk is the script you follow in your daily life; make sure it’s
worth reading out loud.”
Imagine your mind as a garden, and your thoughts as seeds. The
seeds of negative self-talk can grow into weeds, choking your
mind’s garden, while positive self-talk seeds bloom into flowers.
Cultivating awareness is the first step in gardening your mind.
Start by listening. What are you telling yourself about your
abilities, your experiences, and your worth? Are these thoughts
helpful or harmful?
“I am my own critic before I am anyone else’s.”
Next, challenge the unhelpful thoughts. For every weed of
negativity, plant a flower of kindness in its place. If you catch
yourself thinking, “I can’t do this,” pause and plant a new thought:
“I can learn to do this with time and effort.” It’s not about
dismissing every negative thought but about recognizing and
transforming them into something constructive.
In this journey, remember that self-talk is a skill to be developed,
much like learning a new language. At first, it might feel awkward
or forced to speak kindly to yourself, especially if you’re used to
harsh self-criticism. But with practice, positive self-talk can
become your mother tongue, the default language you fall back
on during challenging times.
Let your self-talk be your cheerleader, not your critic.
The stories we tell ourselves shape our perceptions of who we
are and what we can achieve. By developing awareness of our
self-talk, we empower ourselves to author a narrative that uplifts
and supports our growth. The conversation with yourself is the
most significant one you’ll ever have. Make it a conversation
worth having.
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